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His Secret Life

2001 · 106 min

A quiet, tender plunge into grief that slowly opens into a warm, messy chosen family, leaving a bittersweet ache.

Directed by: Ferzan Özpetek
Genres: Drama, Romance
Starring: Margherita Buy, Stefano Accorsi, Serra Yılmaz

Overview: When Antonia's husband Massimo is killed in a car accident, she accidentally discovers that he has been having a same-sex affair with a produce wholesaler named Michele.

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Directed by: Ferzan Özpetek
Genres: Drama, Romance
Starring: Margherita Buy, Stefano Accorsi, Serra Yılmaz

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Tone: melancholicstrength 3 of 3
warmstrength 2 of 3
earneststrength 2 of 3
tensestrength 1 of 3
Pacing: measured, 2 of 4, from slow-burn to relentless
Attention: engaged, 3 of 4, from background-friendly to demanding
Themes: grief
identity
found family
betrayal
love
Places: big city
home
Era: contemporary
Audience: adult
Form: None
Content intensity: Gore none
Language mild
Violence mild
Sex mild

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Action	1
Horror	1
Humour	3
Realism	8
Romance	5
Tension	4
Darkness	5
Complexity	6
Emotional weight	8

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Genres: drama, romance
Directed by: Ferzan Özpetek
Written by: Gianni Romoli, Ferzan Özpetek
Starring: Margherita Buy, Stefano Accorsi, Serra Yılmaz, Gabriel Garko, Erika Blanc, Andrea Renzi, Koray Candemir, Lucrezia Valia
Music: Andrea Guerra
Cinematography: Pasquale Mari
Runtime: 106 min
Country: France, Italy
Languages: Turkish, Italian

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